Doing couples counseling on your own.

Sometimes a partner is not ready to go to counselling with their partner or sometimes they have asked their partner to go with them and their partner refuses.

It is possible to do couples counseling on your own. Why? Because relationships are interactive. What one partner does impacts upon the other. Couples co-create their relationship. No one person is responsible for what is going right in a relationship and no one person is responsible for what is going wrong.
Each person is partly responsible for what is going wrong in a relationship. You can go to counselling and work on your part. You may not know how to change your part and that is what the counselling is to help you figure out – how to change in ways that are likely to enhance the relationship. When you change your part of the interaction your partner usually (not always but usually)responds to change with change. You don’t know what that change is going to be – maybe it will makes things better and maybe not – but the important thing is that there will be change. By taking responsibilty for your part and acting on it you have the power to make changes in your life.

With care and concern,

Dr. Bea Mackay

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