http://decisionquiz.com/what-goes-on-during-repeated-breakups-and-reconciliations/ Card Sort Quizzes to Help You Make Your Decision Tue, 05 Jul 2011 04:21:57 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 http://decisionquiz.com/what-goes-on-during-repeated-breakups-and-reconciliations/comment-page-1/#comment-656 Susan Sat, 02 Jul 2011 17:22:45 +0000 http://www.b-sort.com/blog/2008/03/12/what-goes-on-during-repeated-breakups-and-reconciliations/#comment-656 What if the break-up(s) / separation(s) were due to depression / mid-life crisis experienced by one partner, with the other not knowing how to react / cope? This does not mean the end of love surely? What if one or both partners lacked the skills (or feared the outcomes) of communicating openly? What if "being clear" became synonymous with "being cruel"? Isn't it the case that most people can learn to be compatible with another, and that it requires consistent work from both sides? Why do people give up so easily? What if the break-up(s) / separation(s) were due to depression / mid-life crisis experienced by one partner, with the other not knowing how to react / cope? This does not mean the end of love surely? What if one or both partners lacked the skills (or feared the outcomes) of communicating openly? What if “being clear” became synonymous with “being cruel”? Isn’t it the case that most people can learn to be compatible with another, and that it requires consistent work from both sides? Why do people give up so easily?

]]> http://decisionquiz.com/what-goes-on-during-repeated-breakups-and-reconciliations/comment-page-1/#comment-9 IEG Mon, 13 Jul 2009 02:33:36 +0000 http://www.b-sort.com/blog/2008/03/12/what-goes-on-during-repeated-breakups-and-reconciliations/#comment-9 I was searching for help, but not until I read this, did I found the light bulb moment, which put things into better perspective for me. It is not that I must really love him and that's why I have emotional pain, but for the loss, separation, and the hopes and dreams we had. When there are no faces to the grieving, I find it easier to deal with the facts vs a person. The face of love could be of anybody's.It really doesn't matter who's face we are separating from. It is not him that is important, but the loss, the grieving is what matters. I was searching for help, but not until I read this, did I found the light bulb moment, which put things into better perspective for me. It is not that I must really love him and that’s why I have emotional pain, but for the loss, separation, and the hopes and dreams we had. When there are no faces to the grieving, I find it easier to deal with the facts vs a person. The face of love could be of anybody’s.It really doesn’t matter who’s face we are separating from. It is not him that is important, but the loss, the grieving is what matters.

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