Comments for Decision Quiz http://decisionquiz.com Card Sort Quizzes to Help You Make Your Decision Tue, 08 Dec 2009 23:18:45 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 Comment on Communication Skill: Instant Replay by Kim Muzyka http://decisionquiz.com/when-each-partner-is-open-to-change-change-can-happen-quickly/comment-page-1/#comment-218 Kim Muzyka Tue, 08 Dec 2009 23:18:45 +0000 http://decisionquiz.com/?p=629#comment-218 You're an amazing woman - you make things so clear and relatively simple to accomplish. I appreciate your 'gift' of these publications which always help to ground me in some way. Thank You. You’re an amazing woman – you make things so clear and relatively simple to accomplish. I appreciate your ‘gift’ of these publications which always help to ground me in some way. Thank You.

]]> Comment on Why Kids Fight. Understanding Triangulation in Relationships Pt. 3 by Early Learning Toys http://decisionquiz.com/why-kids-fight-triangluation-pt-3/comment-page-1/#comment-216 Early Learning Toys Mon, 07 Dec 2009 18:31:58 +0000 http://decisionquiz.com/?p=566#comment-216 A thoughtful insight and ideas I will use on my blog. You've obviously spent some time on this. Well done! A thoughtful insight and ideas I will use on my blog. You’ve obviously spent some time on this. Well done!

]]> Comment on The Death of each Parent is a Life Experience by Janyse http://decisionquiz.com/the-death-of-each-parent-is-a-life-experience/comment-page-1/#comment-49 Janyse Sat, 22 Aug 2009 17:15:34 +0000 http://decisionquiz.com/?p=524#comment-49 That is so true about connecting with your parents before they die. I recently decided to visit my parents and take the time to stay longer than I usually do because of work. My father is 93 and my mother is 87. I always felt closer to my father and in these last years because my grandfather died at 92 and (I was close to him) I could feel this anticipatory grief happening. In the past couple of years I didn't want to go to any celebrations, because I thought if I go then he will go and die and although it was irrational I realized I was fearing his death and feeling alone again. So I took the time to spend a couple of weeks caretaking my parents fully. I have 6 siblings and for the first time I was alone with my parents. It was tiring work as my mother had a stroke, all on her left side, and there was much care to do. But as we settled into being with each other I began to see them just as two individuals. My father made a lot of jokes and made my mother laugh and my mother still told stories of how my father wasn't living up to her expectations.Of course I would still oint out how he is now caretaking and he is now planting flowers tec. which he never did before. We laughed together and cried together. My dad and I cleaned the garage out and he told me how he always wanted the boys to help him , and here I was doing this with him. We went to Macdonalds and had french fries and coffee everyday after we went for groceries and spent time together, sometimes talking and sometimes just being quiet like being with my grandpa. My mom and I watched all the old romance shows on TV and cried together when someones heart was broken. And I cooked everything I could think of for them to make it good. We even went out for lunch in the handy dart and I took her and her wheel chair to Iga because she had not seen it for 14 years..And we went through all her cards she got from everyone, she had so many friends ( who of course have died) and she told stories about them.They all said what a great friend she was and she told me how great they were. And when it was time to go I didn't want to leave them and they thanked me and said it was the best visit and I told them it meant the most to me to have them alone and be with them( even though I was tired.)I felt a new kind of connection sort of like the connection I had when I was very little (safe) only now I was older and I could be able to help them and support them emotionally whereas when I was little I couldn't. I came back the next month for a few weeks and once again we resumed our visit and we all had a good time. and now I am back here and they are waiting for me to come back again. There is so much I learned about them and I realized so many things about life, getting older making things good, and realizing how important your parents are and that they are just plain people with limited tools, who have needs to be recognized and to be remembered for doing the best they could. That is so true about connecting with your parents before they die. I recently decided to visit my parents and take the time to stay longer than I usually do because of work. My father is 93 and my mother is 87. I always felt closer to my father and in these last years because my grandfather died at 92 and (I was close to him) I could feel this anticipatory grief happening.
In the past couple of years I didn’t want to go to any celebrations, because I thought if I go then he will go and die and although it was irrational I realized I was fearing his death and feeling alone again.
So I took the time to spend a couple of weeks caretaking my parents fully. I have 6 siblings and for the first time I was alone with my parents. It was tiring work as my mother had a stroke, all on her left side, and there was much care to do. But as we settled into being with each other I began to see them just as two individuals. My father made a lot of jokes and made my mother laugh and my mother still told stories of how my father wasn’t living up to her expectations.Of course I would still oint out how he is now caretaking and he is now planting flowers tec. which he never did before. We laughed together and cried together. My dad and I cleaned the garage out and he told me how he always wanted the boys to help him , and here I was doing this with him. We went to Macdonalds and had french fries and coffee everyday after we went for groceries and spent time together, sometimes talking and sometimes just being quiet like being with my grandpa. My mom and I watched all the old romance shows on TV and cried together when someones heart was broken. And I cooked everything I could think of for them to make it good. We even went out for lunch in the handy dart and I took her and her wheel chair to Iga because she had not seen it for 14 years..And we went through all her cards she got from everyone, she had so many friends ( who of course have died) and she told stories about them.They all said what a great friend she was and she told me how great they were. And when it was time to go I didn’t want to leave them and they thanked me and said it was the best visit and I told them it meant the most to me to have them alone and be with them( even though I was tired.)I felt a new kind of connection
sort of like the connection I had when I was very little (safe) only now I was older and I could be able to help them and support them emotionally whereas when I was little I couldn’t.

I came back the next month for a few weeks and once again we resumed our visit and we all had a good time. and now I am back here and they are waiting for me to come back again. There is so much I learned about them and I realized so many things about life, getting older making things good, and realizing how important your parents are and that they are just plain people with limited tools, who have needs to be recognized and to be remembered for doing the best they could.

]]> Comment on Methods For Changing Your Relationships by Save Relationship http://decisionquiz.com/methods-for-changing-your-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-4 Save Relationship Thu, 16 Jul 2009 08:45:06 +0000 http://www.b-sort.com/blog/2008/02/09/methods-for-changing-your-relationships/#comment-4 Sweet blog. I never know what I am going to come across next. I think you should do more posting as you have some pretty intelligent stuff to say. I’ll be watching you . Sweet blog. I never know what I am going to come across next. I think you should do more posting as you have some pretty intelligent stuff to say.

I’ll be watching you .

]]> Comment on What Goes on During Repeated Relationship Breakups and Reconciliations? by IEG http://decisionquiz.com/what-goes-on-during-repeated-breakups-and-reconciliations/comment-page-1/#comment-9 IEG Mon, 13 Jul 2009 02:33:36 +0000 http://www.b-sort.com/blog/2008/03/12/what-goes-on-during-repeated-breakups-and-reconciliations/#comment-9 I was searching for help, but not until I read this, did I found the light bulb moment, which put things into better perspective for me. It is not that I must really love him and that's why I have emotional pain, but for the loss, separation, and the hopes and dreams we had. When there are no faces to the grieving, I find it easier to deal with the facts vs a person. The face of love could be of anybody's.It really doesn't matter who's face we are separating from. It is not him that is important, but the loss, the grieving is what matters. I was searching for help, but not until I read this, did I found the light bulb moment, which put things into better perspective for me. It is not that I must really love him and that’s why I have emotional pain, but for the loss, separation, and the hopes and dreams we had. When there are no faces to the grieving, I find it easier to deal with the facts vs a person. The face of love could be of anybody’s.It really doesn’t matter who’s face we are separating from. It is not him that is important, but the loss, the grieving is what matters.

]]> Comment on Relationship Communication Skills: Make the Fuzzy Clear by » Kosmic Life — Relationship Web Highlights: Avoiding Pitfalls, Same-Sex Marriage, I not You http://decisionquiz.com/relationship-communication-skills-make-the-fuzzy-clear-pt1/comment-page-1/#comment-11 » Kosmic Life — Relationship Web Highlights: Avoiding Pitfalls, Same-Sex Marriage, I not You Tue, 03 Jun 2008 21:12:12 +0000 http://www.b-sort.com/blog/?p=83#comment-11 [...] B-Sort is a blog by two psychologists specializing in relationships. In the latest post, Dr. Bea Mackay brings attention to the importance of more clearly communicating, since many conflicts can begin with a simple lack of clarification. She goes on to give examples of what tiny things can go wrong quickly…but also lets us know what to look out for and how to correct it. The focus is on pronouns (using “I” not “you”) and how we can benefit from assuming less and clarifying more. Check it out at B-Sort Relationship Advice Blog. [...] [...] B-Sort is a blog by two psychologists specializing in relationships. In the latest post, Dr. Bea Mackay brings attention to the importance of more clearly communicating, since many conflicts can begin with a simple lack of clarification. She goes on to give examples of what tiny things can go wrong quickly…but also lets us know what to look out for and how to correct it. The focus is on pronouns (using “I” not “you”) and how we can benefit from assuming less and clarifying more. Check it out at B-Sort Relationship Advice Blog. [...]

]]> Comment on Make Relationship Changes Now (Pt. 3): Don’t Agree to do Anything that You Really Don’t want to do. by Make Changes Now: Don’t Agree to do Anything that You Really Don’t … | Relationship Advise - Dating Disasters http://decisionquiz.com/make-changes-now-dont-agree-to-do-anything-that-you-really-dont-want-to-do/comment-page-1/#comment-10 Make Changes Now: Don’t Agree to do Anything that You Really Don’t … | Relationship Advise - Dating Disasters Fri, 09 May 2008 17:35:49 +0000 http://www.b-sort.com/blog/?p=79#comment-10 [...] GAYTWOGETHER wrote an interesting post today onHere’s a quick excerptIt’sa given that couples need to do things for each other in a relationship. Sometimes you want to do them; sometimes you don’t want to, but you don’t mind; and occasionally you really do not want to do them. … [...] [...] GAYTWOGETHER wrote an interesting post today onHere’s a quick excerptIt’sa given that couples need to do things for each other in a relationship. Sometimes you want to do them; sometimes you don’t want to, but you don’t mind; and occasionally you really do not want to do them. … [...]

]]> Comment on The Merry-go-round Fights by Tina Russell http://decisionquiz.com/the-merry-go-round-fights/comment-page-1/#comment-8 Tina Russell Wed, 20 Feb 2008 16:01:14 +0000 http://www.b-sort.com/blog/2008/02/20/the-merry-go-round-fights/#comment-8 I found your blog on google and read a few of your other posts. I just added you to my Google News Reader. Keep up the good work. Look forward to reading more from you in the future. Tina Russell I found your blog on google and read a few of your other posts. I just added you to my Google News Reader. Keep up the good work. Look forward to reading more from you in the future.

Tina Russell

]]> Comment on Living inside my head. by Karen Halls http://decisionquiz.com/living-inside-my-head/comment-page-1/#comment-7 Karen Halls Fri, 15 Feb 2008 21:22:11 +0000 http://www.b-sort.com/blog/2008/02/15/living-inside-my-head/#comment-7 I found your site on google blog search and read a few of your other posts. Keep up the good work. Just added your RSS feed to my feed reader. Look forward to reading more from you. Karen Halls I found your site on google blog search and read a few of your other posts. Keep up the good work. Just added your RSS feed to my feed reader. Look forward to reading more from you.

Karen Halls

]]> Comment on Pendulum Swing by Ross McCulloch http://decisionquiz.com/pendulum-swing/comment-page-1/#comment-6 Ross McCulloch Tue, 12 Feb 2008 10:49:28 +0000 http://www.b-sort.com/blog/2008/02/11/pendulum-swing/#comment-6 Excellent article. Excellent article.

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