Dreams have meaning even if we cannot figure out what the meaning is. Interpreting our own dreams is difficult because we are so close to ourselves it’s hard to get perspective. Yet it can be done.
Dreams deal with our current life and what is going on in it.
If you dream of someone from our past, whom you have not seen in years, it means that person represents something for you and relates to your current life. For example, you dream of the girl in high school who was considered a sexpot (she is not in your current life); it means she symbolizes something about sex for you which somehow does relate to your current life. If she is also in your current life, it may mean something about the real person and your relationship to her or someone else that relates to sex.
If you dream of something in the future, such as becoming rich, it relates to the present and what is motivating your current behaviors.
Meaning is based in context.
We all have shared meaning of words and expressions. But we also have idiosyncratic or personal meanings, which are significant when interpreting dreams. For instance, we all have a common meaning for the word ‘bridge’. However, a person, whose brother attempted suicide by jumping off a bridge, will have an additional high-charged meaning to the word ‘bridge’.
Roberta and Stan each dream of a woman with a string of pearls.
Roberta had a loving grandmother who always wore a string of pearls. She adored her grandmother and had a very close relationship to her. For Roberta, the string of pearls was symbolic of all the good times they had together. She frequently wore a string of pearls herself.
Stan had a nasty great aunt whom he hated. She always wore a string of pearls. Every time she visited their home, she made his life miserable. She disliked boys and seemed to dislike him in particular. The string of pearls was symbolic of all the times he had to endure her visits. He tended to be wary of women who wore pearls.
Association can give the meaning.
Since your brain created the dream, in some ways, you are every part of the dream. You are the producer, director, actors, creatures, setting, furniture, vegetation, sky, ground, colors, sounds, actions, words and storyline.
To find out what meaning the people, objects, creatures, and places, have for you, explore the associations you have with each one.
Joey dreams of an old man floating in a leaky boat way out at sea. The feeling tone to the dream is dread.
When Joey thought of the ‘old man’, he immediately thought of his grandfather who lived on the West Coast. His grandfather was not doing well financially. When he thought this, he had the sudden realization that he had a ‘sinking feeling’ about his future. He did not want to end up poor like his grandfather.
Try it yourself: To get the meaning of elements in your dream take each significant element and associate to it. Allow for whatever thoughts to pop into your mind. Write them down as you do it. When you find the meaning it has you will resonate with it.
Become the element.
Sara tended to overwork. Her husband was always worried about how she was going to wear herself out. Sara too wondered if she was doing too much.
Sara dreamed of a cat sleeping curled up in a wicker basket. Feeling tone to the dream is peaceful.
To try to get the meaning of the dream Sara talked as if she was the cat (another way to associate). I am a fluffy orange cat. I’m an older cat. I’m sleeping peacefully. I’m getting rest.
As Sara said this she realized she is not getting worn out. She is just fine. Like the cat she can rest, get restored and jump up and happily work some more. She just likes to work. Her next realization was – her husband is not getting enough time with her. She decided to address that issue with him instead of talking about her getting worn out.
Often the meaning of dreams is hidden in the metaphors of the dreams, such as leaky boat and rested cat. By associating to the significant elements in the dream you can get insight into what the meaning of the dream is for you.
Have fun with this method of exploring your dreams.
With care and concern,